Furniture Removals Tips - Moving With Children
Tell your older children about the move once the plans are certain. Children need more time to adapt to the thought of moving and adjust. They also need time to say goodbye to their friends, so keeping the news secret until the last minute is never a good idea.
Attitude when moving with children
• The adult should be focused and try to create a sense of adventure in this tough situation.
• If you are stressed, depressed or nervous, your children will feel that exact same feelings.
• Give your children as much information as you have - this will make them imagine the new situation easier and adjust their expectations.
• Discuss the moving process, the new neighborhood and any cultural differences.
• Encourage your children to talk about their worries.
On the day of the move:
• Encourage the children's anticipation of the moving process.
• Allow them to help out, but don't burden them with too much to do.
• Let them play if they don't want to or can't help you.
• Be prepared for all sorts of reactions and expressions - boredom, frustration, anger.
• Don't ignore your children's feelings just because you have a lot on your mind.
• If your children are teens, show them that their needs and feedback are important.
The New Home/ Neighborhood Prior to the Move
• Visit the new home and neighborhood with your children way before the moving day.
• Visit local places of interests, shops and playgrounds.
• Have a positive attitude and show them that the new place will offer them a lot of new things.
• Take your children to their new school and introduce them to their teachers.
• Encourage your children to research the area and culture on their own through books and the Internet.
• Let teenagers pack their things and don't go through each of their items, since they respect their private space way too much.
Avoid Changes to your Children's Daily Routines
• Maintain the same daily routines to avoid stress.
• Do not add new routines soon after you've moved in.
• Let your children keep all their old and unnecessary belongings at least three weeks after the moving.
• Respect your children's private space and let them give ideas about the look of their new rooms.
The Day of the Move
• Have small children and babies stay with your friends or relatives so that you can focus on what needs to be done around the house; this will also ensure that you avoid accidents .
• Arrive before the movers and make sure babies have their favorite toys nearby.
• Allow enough time for adjusting to the new place and the area.
• Make sure the children are occupied when the movers arrive and the unpacking begins.
• Be calm and organized as this is a great example to your children too.
• Unpack and deal with the children's bedrooms first.
• Allow them to arrange their items the way they want to.
• Unpack essential things first and make sure the kitchen will be set up fat enough to cook for the children.
• Spend time with your children exploring the area and the new places around.
Once you are settled in, it's reality time. Children may start feeling angry or frustrated, they might feel like strangers at school. Each child adapts to the new place in their own speed and manner so don't give them hard time. It can take up to a few weeks or even months for children to adjust, but they will eventually.
Signs that there is a problem in the adjustment of your children
• Sleeping problems, nightmares, crying
• Otbursts of anger and frustration
• Refusing to speak, spending time alone
• Refusing to communicate with their peers
• Low marks at school
• Loss of appetite